Have you ever wondered where you can find real life kinky girls in your area?

Actually, it is much easier if you actually know who and what you are looking for, and I have over the years found it quite simple to engage any, I mean any woman into a conversation that will lead to the discussion of this life and its benefits.

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AGE PLAY Role-playing the persona of someone substantially younger (or sometimes "mom" or "daddy" play.

BONDAGE Physical materials applied to a submissive or slave to restrain their ability to move and/or to otherwise restrict them. Also, the act of placing the submissive or slave in such materials. As all who know me, understand I prefer the use of handcuffs and chain as it makes a very defined statement of control and the music of the chain can be used to trigger certain responses in the slave or submissive.

BOTTOM A slang term for a submissive and/or masochist. Many people use the word "bottom" to mean specifically someone who enjoys being given various sensations, as opposed to a "submissive", who enjoys being controlled.

BOTTOM SPACE The psychological "head space" or attitude of being submissive.

BOY A submissive (often, but not always, male) who relates to their dominant in a child-to parent mode. More common among gay men and lesbians.

BRAT A submissive who enjoys rebelling in a childlike way against their dominant. Brats are fairly common in the spanking scene.

Also every slave I have known will also fall into the Brat category, as they, no matter how good and living and enjoying the lifestyle will from time to time test you and see exactly how far they can go and take any given situation. I do not know if it is attention seeking, or play, or simply a part of the mind wanting to change Masters or life style.

CONSENSUAL An activity done with the consent of adults competent to give that consent. One of the central features of SM play or Bondage or any activity. This to me is the absolute most important thing to establish for both your protection and the safety of the Sub, or Slave or Partner. It is vital you both have safe and sane goals and understanding of the rules of when to stop and when to intensify the event.

COUNTING GAMES Rituals engaged in during whipping, flogging, spanking , or during other forms of flagellation, in which the submissive (or slave) is

required to keep count f the number of strokes delivered, often thanking the Master after each one and asking for more. Example:

"That’s five, Sir. Thank you Sir, Sir, please may I have another, Sir?"

DADDY A dominant (usually, but not always, male) who has a submissive "boy" and who relates to that submissive in a parent/child mode. More common among gay men and lesbians, but gaining currency among heterosexuals and bisexuals as well.

DISCIPLINE Training by a Master in how they wish their submissive or slave to behave. Also, the punishment and correction administered by the Master when the submissive fails to act in the proper manner. Example might be that a slave has a drink or smoke problem or a sex addiction and the Master’s job is to redefine these behavior patterns.

DOMINANT One who enjoys assuming control. One who decides what happens and when. A dominant may or may not be sadistic. Unfortunately many Dominants are Sadistic and this in my view ruins many good Subs and Slaves. I find that a word or lack of communication can be more hurting than all the skin taken off a person, as if you develop respect of your Sub or Slave, then the shunning by lack of communication is indeed the most pain that can ever be inflicted. To me the true test of a Slave is to endure such an action and still be responsible to the Master and not seek others in the period of punishment of shunning.

FLAGELLATION The general act of one person striking another, usually in an erotic context. Includes spanking, paddling, flogging and whipping. You can look around in your area to see who is out there that can turn your fantasy into a reality.

FLOGGER A multi-tailed whip in which the tails are long, flat strips of leather or a similarly flexible material.

HUMILIATION Activities which cause the submissive to feel shame, embarrassment, or degradation. Varies widely from person to person. Possibly psychologically explosive..

MASTER A term for a male dominant. Often used as a term of address, such as "Master Tom". It is often considered somewhat rude to address a man by this term without being first given permission to do so.

An ongoing SM relationship in which the slave is submissive to a male dominant. The Slave follows the guidance and direction of the Master without question and totally. The Master must also be responsible to learn that the Slave may have a social life or condition that makes certain commands or activity impossible and be aware of this and tune his commands in accordance with this. Example, a married lady, a high social figure, a Church leader, or other professional. I have a standing rule that will allow all my Slaves to know their position at all times and feel the power of the Master 24/7. They all get a choice of a permanent bracelet that will be worn in a non removable manner period, or a fine quality gold waist chain that once put on never comes off, can we worn under all clothes, or a fine collar, of the social type that once put on, never comes off. Of course for play time, cyber or real strong steel bracelets and sometimes anklets and metal collar. All locking so that for the play time, they totally realize they are not in control at any level to remove, and only upon Master’s approval or order can they be removed. As time goes on, the use of the heavy Master Slave symbols become more bold in public and everyday life until at some point, they are put on and never come off, as they are part of the slave.

Feelings of remorse, disgust, fear, and so forth that sometimes emerge hours or days after a person willingly, and often lustily, takes part in SM play.

MUMMIFICATION Immobilizing bondage, usually done by wrapping the submissive in many coils of materials such as plastic wrap, or by placing the submissive in a body bag designed for this purpose.

NOVICE A person just beginning to learn about and explore SM. Often treated with special kindness and attention by the more experienced members of the community or by the MASTER.

SADIST As loosely defined with the SM Community, a person who specifically enjoys administering pain. A person may be dominant without being sadistic. It's also possible to be sadistic without being dominant.

SADOMASOCHISM A rather vague term referring generally to fantasies and experiences regarding the introduction of domination, submission, bondage, sadism, masochism, humiliation, and related activities into erotic play.

SAFE-WORD A specific word or other signal used, by prior agreement, to indicate that things are "really" becoming too intense for the person. Usually used by the submissive or slave, but may also be used by the dominant. "Safeword" itself is sometimes used at SM parties to signal a desire for outside intervention.

SLAVE A person who has an on-going, structured relationship with a dominant or Master. One who assumes the submissive role, often in a highly developed and committed way to a particular person. Cling someone "my slave" generally indicates a relatively sophisticated, ongoing relationship between the two of you.

SUBMISSIVE One who yields control. One who obeys orders and may permit themselves to be bound if doing so pleases their dominant or Master. This is also part of power exchange and again usually the female gives her will and power to the Master.

TOP'S DISEASE An unwarranted attitude of superiority taken by a dominant. Believing that bottoms are somehow inferior and treating them so in either obvious or subtle ways. Usually a sign of insecurity or ignorance. Dominants who suffer from Top's Disease often (surprise, surprise) complain about how hard it is to find people willing to play with them. a mirror image of this syndrome is called Bottom's Disease.

TWO SQUEEZES A "squeeze signal" between players used to non-verbally signal that, "I'm all right."

WORSHIP To adore the personage of the dominant. Often combined with performing some service to the dominant's body such as massaging, kissing, or licking their feet or boots, massaging their body, bathing them. Explicitly sexual activity, such as performing oral sex on the dominant, may or may not be a part of such play.